Mind Trouble

When we worry, we are focused on the future and our inability to cope with it. This leads to anxiety, stress and ‘what if’s?’.

When we ruminate, we are focused on the past, our losses and personal failings. This leads to thoughts of ‘if only’, depression, sadness and shame.

When we are worrying or ruminating, we are constantly chewing things over, repeatedly thinking about the same thing. The same thoughts keep returning and it is difficult to get out of this type of thinking.

This type of thinking tries to reduce the distress and overcome the problems, but we end up increasing the stress and making the problem bigger. It also interferes with clear thinking, daily activity and our ability to cope.

If we continue to use this type of thinking, we can end up with harmful behaviours to help us escape from our thoughts, such as self-harm, drinking, drugs and comfort eating.

The more we ruminate or worry, the stronger the habit becomes and the harder it is to change.

So, what can you do about it?

Notice that your mind is going down this rumination/worry route.

Tell yourself that you don’t have to think about that right now. It can wait until you feel stronger. There is nothing you can do about your thoughts – you can’t stop them, but you can choose not to focus on them. Set a physical amount of time before allowing yourself to worry again.

Do something that will take up your attention and help you feel better. What can you do right now that will help you feel better and what can you do that will take you a step in the right direction?